In recent years, many researchers have stated that a person’s emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) is more important to their quality of life than their IQ.

What exactly is an EQ? Harvard theorist Howard Gardner explains it this way: “Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them, and how to work cooperatively with them.” Those with a higher EQ enjoy better-sustained relationships and less stress in their interactions. A study from the University of Texas and the University of California at Berkley reported some surprising findings, especially given many people’s view of “cranky seniors.”

We tend to associate aging with fear, anxiety, and a loss of ability to communicate effectively. However, this study proved that, on average, senior citizens tend to exhibit higher emotional intelligence than younger individuals. They consider relationships valuable and tend to nurture them. They understand having an appreciation for the present moment – and are adept at adjusting their emotions to synch with others. Overall, senior citizens have a more optimistic perspective on life and face adversity.

Good Health Plays an Important Role

Obviously, facing aging with a good attitude does rely heavily on overall health. The fewer major health issues, the more options, freedom, and independence can be retained. Personality and life history are also critical elements. In other words, those who had a good attitude for most of their lives are likely to carry it into old age. However, those who had a lot of tragedy in their life may have more difficulty remaining optimistic.

However, studies show that regardless of early life experience, an individual’s capability to process emotion significantly improves after the age of 60. Of course, this is a blanket statement and doesn’t apply to everyone.

Emotional Intelligence in Senior Citizens

Contrary to popular belief, people over 60 aren’t automatically destined for loneliness, dissatisfaction, and decline. Life is expectancy is approximately 80 years, meaning that people still have a lot of living to do. Contemporary seniors, especially those in Florida, engage in numerous activities with peers and family – including travel, outings to restaurants and entertainment venues, and taking care of their grandchildren. But even those who cope with physical decline, health problems, and financial issues seem to be able to maintain a high level of emotional well-being.

How is this possible? Here are two theories from The Journal of Gerontology.

  • Socioemotional selectivity: There comes a time when you realize life will not go on forever. Therefore your behavior switches from being motivated by future rewards and instead focuses on having emotionally fulfilling moments every day.
  • Dynamic integration: As people age, they realize that their physical and cognitive abilities are lessening, little by little. They aren’t as agile and may have nagging aches and pains. When they realize this is something they have little control over, they often choose to concentrate on those things they can control – their emotions, moods, and reactions.

Another interesting facet of this phenomenon is called the “positivity effect.” People put a personal filter on their experiences and choose to keep the most gratifying ones. This filter helps to focus on the positive and begin to form more meaningful bonds with others.

High emotional intelligence in seniors results in a better quality of life, helps physical vitality and reduces stress and depression.

One of the best ways to guarantee a high emotional intelligence quotient is to stay engaged with others and remain active to whatever extent is possible. If you have a loved one in assisted living or memory care, you can speak with the administrators at their facility to find out what programs and activities they can join.

A Banyan Residence is a professional assisted living and memory care facility located in Venice, Florida.